Discover Your Personal Erotic Myth


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Update: The PEM Survey has been moved to my new professional site – Galen Fous MTP – Fetish Sex Expert, Psychotherapist, Fetish Sex Researcher…to take the survey go here… PEM Survey link


Improve your Sex Life and Your Relationships – Discover Your PEM (Personal Erotic Myth)!

A PEM contains the fantasy imagery, story-lines, mythic personas and actions, that drives a person that has a PEM to orgasm, or other deep erotic states. It is often expressed in fetish, kink and D/s-BDSM oriented sex. Some people are quite aware of their PEM, and may have caught glimpses of it, or more , well before puberty…even if they have yet to share it with another.  Some may have already crossed the threshold of secrecy their desire may have been held in, to engage the desire itself. Some will have multiple PEM’s that ebb and flow in their sex life. For many others,  it is  still an unconscious but compelling force, just below acknowleged awareness,  that drives their sexual desire. It is the aspect of their Eros that they have not looked at, or engaged in consciously.  But during sex, in the moments right before orgasm,  it can flood into the body in wild, fierce gestures, accompanied by profane, blasphemous invectives (sound-bytes from the PEM) . If you are curious, and ready to discover more about your PEM take the Personal Erotic Myth Research Survey below.

(Survey starts below, if you wish to skip context )

One of the aspects of my final year in grad school, is to do supervised research project, in the form of a survey, around my theory of the PEM – or Personal Erotic Myth. This research project will contribute to my final thesis on the mythic, archetypal nature of Fetish based sexuality. The survey below, and it’s intent has been approved by my graduate advisor and is monitored as well, by my local supervisor – a Portland based PHD psychologist.

The evidence of a PEM, for those to whom it is mostly unconscious, is only revealed in the last minute or so before they orgasm.

In these last moments, despite all the ways they may have unconsciously employed to hide, mask, diminish or ignore their true erotic nature, their deepest erotic truth finally floods and overwhelms all restraint in the body and psyche to express itself. This can often sound like a Turette’s syndrome attack…a burst of invectives and blasphemies of all sorts and a primal wildness is embodied in the last heaving moments before release.

“Oh god…harder…harder…please take me” …or “take it bitch” or numerous other litanies, may be all of the PEM that is revealed.

I believe this is just a “sound byte” from one’s PEM. The PEM is like a zip file, stored in the unconscious. It contains hours of content, that includes all the elements of a mythic erotic story…archetypal personas, counterpart personas, setting, history, attire, dialogue, body language, props, et al. Some of these myths may stretch deep down the into the instinctual layers of our psychological structures that stem from the mammalian(alpha/beta pecking order – dominance and submission) and reptilian(predator/prey – sadist/masochist) phases of our biological and psychological heritage. These wilder, primitive aspects of human biology/psychology often show up in the myths, personas and physical expressions related to Fetish, Kink, and D/s-BDSM sexual expression.

I believe this research area is relevant in regards to updating the outdated dating protocols still operating in the culture at large. People are partnering and marrying without ever having discussed, let alone know what each others sexual desires look like, or how frequently or what kinds of sexual expression is central to their erotic nature. This leads to devastating erotic mismatches, which may lead to all sorts of shadowy, hidden, dangerous or deceptive behaviors eventually going on behind partners’ backs, or shows up in other harmful ways that disrupt if not destroy the relationship.

People knowing their PEM and tools of how to communicate that honorably with a potential partner may be more apt to have a stronger bond in their overall relationship than not, as well as a fulfilled and well-expressed sexuality.
I believe that upwards of 25% of the population has an inherent fetish-driven sexual nature, held within a PEM(s), just as around 10% of the gene pool is gay or lesbian in their sexual orientation. I speculate that it may be a MUCH higher percentage, and I am attempting to explore this theory further.

Completing the Survey may help you shed more light on your own desires, and be able to better consider how to engage them consciously in your life and your relationships. Please allow about 15 minutes to complete

After completing the survey you may opt-in to see the results as the data gets compiled. You are welcome to share a link to this page within your own networks. I would be grateful if you did! If you are a blogger or write for other media, you are welcome to quote this article, or contact me for an interview.


Update: The PEM Survey has been moved to my new professional site – Galen Fous MTP – Fetish Sex Expert, Psychotherapist, Fetish Sex Researcher…to take the survey go here… PEM Survey link

  40 Responses to “Discover Your Personal Erotic Myth”

  1. I am naked as I type this…. thank you for being brave and outrageous enough to ask me these very personal questions….. eat my panties, I dare you…… be my fucktoy
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  2. Interesting that writing it down after thinking about it, brings to forefront just how much shame is involved, nearly didn’t complete the survey because of it, feel dirty and the need to go to church now!!

  3. Greetings Galen,
    Thank you for the time you put into this survey/questionaire. i am impressed with the far-reaching implications for assisting folks out of confusion and frustration into self-knowledge and self-acceptance.

    Additionally, the ambition to transform normal dating into something much more useful (a method to delve and identify one’s own core erotic themes no less!) could mean–as you suggest–far higher percentage of viable long-term relationships is well-placed. Your work has the all the markings of a cutting-edge movement … i see a readiness all around me, i anticipate it will go viral.


    • Thanks interesting test but in the area of people one might have wanted sex with sister was not in the margin.

      I think the work you are doing is certainly edgy and thank you.

  4. Filling out this survey and taking time out to consciously connect with that place within has made me aware that there are two stories in the shadows, that almost at some point merge. One around an experience when I was much younger which melts into the shame and guilt in the church environment. Hmmmm. Interesting, I didn’t even realise it.
    What else is yet to be bought out of the shadows and into my consciousness.????

  5. Thanks!

  6. Interesting survey, I have only begun breaking the surface of my sexual exploration based on my past. I have been delving into the psychology of the ordeal. It would be nice to know the results of your survey, if possible.

  7. Thank you :)

  8. Fun test.

  9. Interesting

  10. I would like to see the overall results and where I fit in them.
    Yours is the first survey that asks questions that I feel fit my sexual awakening.

  11. Thanj you, anyway the questions were very entertaining !

  12. this made me really explore where I am at with my sexuality and I really it has really been a progression of fantasies and experiences, one feeding the other.

  13. Very interesting and enlightening.

  14. I got what i wanted, now i get what i deserve.

  15. Thanks you, I’ll be looking out for the results :)

  16. This was fun! Thanks for the opportunity!

  17. I can see how this data could be extremely useful in analysis….Thanks for providing this…

  18. Interested to hear about the results

  19. Good to reflect on this, and would like to see the results.

  20. Thank you! Great survey, I’m interested in hearing about more.

  21. Very interesting study. I would like to know more about it.

  22. Enjoyable

  23. very interesting, had fun and discovered a couple of things about myself.

  24. It is amazing that I have so much suppressed sexual desire for my fantasy. I actually acted my fantasy out and felt shame and divorced my husband but I think about doing it and am so aroused. I learned a lot about myself and will pursue sexual fulfillment with alternative sex

  25. I was very astonished my sexual abuse could be so linked to my story structure. Very eye-opening!

  26. I have multiple partners (one of which I have not yet met in person) I love them all dearly with all my heart and could have made the story part longer even. It makes me miss them even more though, as two are in Arizona and the one I have not met yet even further away. This helped me know more about myself just filling it out. Thank you Daka

  27. Thank you for giving me a place to try and explain what i feel. It is so nice knowing that i am not alone.

  28. Very intriguing to go through. It certainly helps to open one’s eyes. :)

  29. This was very interesting and quite fun. Thank you!

  30. Quite a long but nonetheless interesting survey. Had fun trying it.
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  31. Would be interested in seeing where this leads.

  32. Quite interesting. I will certainly tell others about this.

  33. very nice survey, I would love to read the results. I wrote a stupid comment in the last question because I took the survey before I read the introductory text, sorry.

  34. cool.

  35. Interesting survey. Hope my responses have helped.

  36. It was great to sort of contribute to this survey which in a way was trying to tell someone what my desires are and who i’m.

  37. This was such a great experience.. the entire time i was giving this survey i was stroking my dick and fingering my butt hole every now and then :) Good Fun!!

  38. That was fun! Now I’m all hot and bothered ha!

  39. Interesting and fun to take. Thanks!
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