What does it mean to be a Conscious Masculine Dominant?
Ultimately, it is your own personal path to develop, not what anyone else tells you.
Whatever the path though, if you have chosen a noble one to aspire to, you will surely be challenged by every part of you that does not show up so nobly at times in your life.
In the cultures of our ancestors in the long ago past, this journey to mature responsible masculinity, was through the path of initiation. At adolescence the elder men led the boys to the edge of the wild places and sent them off one by one into that unknown. They would tell them, when you have faced your deepest fears and know who you are, then you may return. Bring those gifts you have discovered about yourself back and share them with your tribe.
Defining, renewing, living and deepening your path, and being open to look at what stands in the way, is what the workshop will support you in creating.
Some Topics Covered:
Defining Your Personal Code of Masculine Dominance
Looking Deeper into the Masculine Mythos – Intention, Presence, Ritual, Archetypes, Symbols, Metaphor – tools to understand and deepen your relationship to yourself and your partner.
The Important Distinction between D/s(relationship) and BDSM(dark eros)
The Dance of Masculine and feminine in relationship
Resolving the Paradox of Noble Loving Dominant/Cruel Sexual Sadist – How both aspects can be true…and noble.
Understanding, Owning and Resolving the Shadows of the Dominant (often Tyrant/weakling) and learning to effectively deal with your submissive’s(often needy/defiant)
Embodying Your Masculine Dominance – getting out of your head and deeply into your body. Tools and techniques to get connected to your embodied masculinity…and your sub into her full feminine presence.
Practices s to Build Intimacy, Trust, Safety and Connection, to Resolve Deeper Conflicts in your relationship with your submissive
Note: Het Male for the purposes of the workshop means you can play sexually anyway you choose, but in a relationship context you intend to be and are in the lead, and more often than not on top in the dungeon.
Date: Sunday, Aug 19, 1-5pm
Location: SF Bay Area – address given upon registration.
Space limited to 20 men, so reserve your place asap
$40 or sliding scale offered
If you have a sincere interest in attending, and have a financial need, please contact me directly to discuss sliding scale, trade or other options.
It is possible this could form into an ongoing support and connection group.
If you have any questions, please email me at Galen@DakaDom.com
For me being conscious means to be clear about, and aware of the values I live by, my personal code, and if my actions in the world, are in alignment with these values . Am I walking my talk! Would a submissive woman be proud, trust, feel safe, cared for, listened to and honored to serve me?
Being Conscious also means to be aware of my shadow aspects. As a Dominant for instance, if my intention is to aspire to leadership, responsibility, integrity (walking my talk), or accountability, I have to be aware of, own, and examine all aspects of the ways and times I may not be in integrity, accountable, responsible or in leadership. I will need to learn to address the underlying reasons why I am falling short of my stated intention. What is causing me to get off track. Is there a pattern here? What is it about?
The archetypal shadows of the Dominant or King archetype, are the weakling on one end of the scale and tyrant on the other. The King’s energy rests in balance between them. As a man, are you aware of these unconscious shadow parts of you, and how and when they may get triggered in your relationship to women. How do you respond if your submissive or others challenge your authenticity, competence, authority or safety as a Dominant? How well and clearly do you set and hold the boundaries or protocols you establish? How readily can you own your mistakes and sincerely apologize if you have been unfair or unjust?
Here’ some more considerations. Are you mindful, present, in your body, can you be vulnerable? Do you tell the truth? Honor and keep agreements? How deeply are you taking in the submission being offered? Do you allow yourself to really feel the power of it deep in your being?
How are your skills at intimacy and non-sexual touch to connect deeply with your submissive physically and emotionally, and make her body melt. Do you practice the art of blessing your submissive? Can you honorably hold the space for both the noble dominant and cruel sadist? Do you understand the sharp distinction between D/s and BDSM? Are you aware of the personal erotic mythos that drives your erotic passions. Are you aware of your submissive’s erotic mythos?
These are some of the things that will be explored and examined in this workshop. We will also share experiences, questions and issues specific to Het Male Dom led relationships.
There will be many tools and techniques offered in support of defining and developing your own personal practice of Conscious Masculine Dominance. The intent is to support each man to define his own path.
Being a Conscious Masculine Dominant is a practice one can develop and continually aspire to. It is an ideal to aim for, not a destination one will ever arrive at.
There is no perfection in this. We will all fail if we are striving for perfection. But we can develop a strong intention to live up to our own personal code, even if we stumble, and develop practices that help us continually renew our connection to our intention to be Conscious Masculine Dominants.
“Galen leads his workshops with a humble authority that is true to his extensive experience in BDSM. Eloquent, intuitive and worldly in his perspectives, Galen generates a learning environment that is safe, authentic and open to all.” – Ms Savannah Sly – co-founder Kink Academy
About Galen: Galen brings nearly 15 years experience in guiding and facilitating men’s workshops to help men connect to their core values of mature authentic masculinity. He has been involved in the work of the Mankind Project (mkp.org), and Weekend Leader of the Boys to Men rite of passage weekend for teen boys(http://www.boystomen.org/), and the Inner Mentor weekend for men who wish to mentor teen boys.
In addition he has led workshops all over the country on Conscious Kink practices, appears at numerous Kink and Sexuality Conferences, and has been interviewed in numerous publications for his innovative views on conscious sexuality.
Galen is currently in graduate school in psychology, researching and developing a new therapeutic model of sex-therapy for individuals and couples.
Learn more about Galen and his work at the Conscious Kink Blog – http://DakaDom.com
Galen is also the designer of the Tetruss Portable Dungeon Suspension Bondage Rig and Sex Swing http://Tetruss.com