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If you seek encouragement to embrace the truth about your sexuality and answer Yes to any of the following questions, my extensive experience as a compassionate faciltator and erotic guide may help you resolve conflicted aspects of your life and sexuality.

Does it feel unsafe to express your erotic fantasies and desires to your partner(s)?

Do you feel you have to hide or repress who you are to please family, friends or associates?

Are you struggling with shame, guilt, isolation, fear of discovery, sneaking behind a partner's back?

If you answered Yes, contact me for an initial private discussion...FREE! Here's how

Resolving Fear, Shame, Unworthiness

Many of us hide true aspects of our sexual persona…for good reason! Our parent culture does not offer a safe, sacred place to honor and discuss the full spectrum of Eros. Nor does the parent culture honor, bless and respect any but the narrowest view of acceptable sexual practice. In fact, the fear of shaming, ostracization, loss of employment, family and friends can leave many of us hidden or shadowy about our true sexual desire. Some of us are deep in shame and guilt and can’t get past the fear of speaking openly about our desires to those closest to us. Some become consumed by fantasy, masturbation or porn rather than risk openly expressing what’s true. Many of us were emotionally wounded (shamed or terrorized) around our sexuality, if not in fact sexually abused. We may have developed shyness or embarrassment, loss of trust, loss of confidence. We may have internalized the harsh voice of moral judgment from our father or mother, religion or culture, into our inner dialogue. And to one extent or another we may carry an innate fear of being discovered at the wrong time or place...the feeling of being busted and the consequences that might bring.

Dark/Light, Sacred/Profane are the ying/yang of Eros. I don't judge either as good or bad. Dark has to do with the soul. Light with the spirit. Soul is of the earth, the physical. Spirit is transcendant, the metaphysical.

Erotically, D/s and BDSM are a channel to access soulful expression. Sacred practices such as Tantra and Quodohska contain erotic pathways to spiritual expression. My intent in my practice is to join the paths of Dark and Light, in alignment with my client's desires.

In truth these are not separate paths. For millenium dark eros has remained, but has been forced underground, hidden. Both in the cultural setting and in an individuals hidden underworld.

"The dark wants to be loved too!"

Until this millenium, sex outside of procreation has been treated like a wayward and inferior aspect of human personality. But somehow, perversion, fetish and other forms of dark eros have flourished in the underground sanctuaries of every culture in every time. This, despite the threat of imprisonment, execution, financial ruin and public humilitation. The tenacity of dark eros is impressive. I am amazed by this.

The rift in the human psyche from disowning eros in all its forms is a gaping wound. The self divided, causes chaotic conflicts between our desires and the moral imperative and cultural threat, to be "good".

I feel it is moral, sacred and spirtual act to bring our sexuality back into the light. I feel it is healing and enpowering to express sexuality honestly without judgement.

Your sexual truth, however it looks, is a beautiful, creative, joyous celebration of your soul. Expressing your sexuality in a responsible way with consenting adults is healthy and normal. You can still be a good parent, son or daughter, a good friend, business partner or employee, or active in community service .

There are millions of others like you who have taken steps to find their truth and express it honestly and authentically. I believe we are all serving spirit, nature, evolution, or god/dess, as your prefer. And I am grateful that it is so.

"Galen brings a high level of integrity and presence as he safely invites us to open to our shadow parts. Now, more than ever, the world needs ritual space for that expression. Thank you, Galen." Anna Marti - AnnaMarti.com

"Galen, our last session had a powerful impact.  I never realized how much fear I have buried under my cool, calm exterior. You have such a powerful, yet gentle presence and wisdom that allowed me to feel safe to open up. It was such a relief" MIike C.

"I have had sessions at Body Electric and was quite amazed at how your guidance and healing toiuch moved me out of places I felt stuck in my head....and body. It was a most fulfilling experience. Thank you." Charles L.

"Galen is a Man of uninhibited pleasure and talent that few can compare with. His Mastery of body, mind and soul cannot be compared." tegaja

"Galen's abililty to merge the dark with light is amazing. His energy is compelling. Most importantly, Galen is a man with deep integrity. Not only was I physically safe with him but emotionally he made sure I was ready for what I pleaded for." Eve

" In my adult life my secret desires ranged from being "Daddy's lil girl" to a submissive slut begging for more. Galen's ability to guide me thru these dark desires, while keeping "me" safe is truly the art and work of an experienced Daka.. I was never afraid for my safety, all boundaries were honored. Galen opened me to sense and explore all range of my emotions as well - from the erotic highs of begging for more torment...to greater awareness and healing from whatever shadows or wounded parts arose that Galen helped me process. He connected with me before each session, making sure I was present and truly ready for what I asked for. My experience with Galen has helped me grow from a shy woman wanting to explore her sexuality - to embracing my "inner slut" . My sense of my sexuality has been enriched by exploring my submissive side, learning how to open up and expand my horizons, discovering so many different ways to eroticize the act of bondage, edge play, suspension, and more. I highly commend Galen for his compassion, and honesty. He is always in control, and your safety and well-being are always important first and foremost in every session. lilgirl subt

"Several months ago I sought out a mentor and confessor who would require, an "out loud" confession of each of my transgressions. A mentor who would guide me through acts of atonement, physical punishment, and finally grant me, acceptance and forgiveness. My investigation, led me to Galen. Galen’s interrogation methods induced a full account of each of my transgressions. His fatherly firmness during punishment, and his gracious encouragement during the reward phase, is just what I, was looking for. As a mentor, he has never failed, to make me feel, honored, safe, and cared for. In the short time we have been working together, he has introduced me to a broader sense of myself. Therefore, the sessions impact me at a depth I have never felt till now." scarlett

"Galen is an attentive Dom who honors the Dom/sub relationship with respect, wisdom and integrity. He gently and firmly coaxed out my nasty depths by requiring me to talk about my favorite submissive fantasies and to be honest about my needs. My tender vulnerabilities were always met with kind understanding. A trust was built that allowed me to experience the surrender a sub so yearns for - and to reclaim my power as the hot sexy slut that I am. Galen has a sharp mind and a wonderful arsenal of toys and restraints. He is sadistic and passionate. He is mature and experienced. If you’re looking for safe ground to explore your submissive slut, Galen can help you." m

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I have been fascinated and drawn to these energies/fetishes/kinks since a young pre-pubescent boy. They seemed so obvious and compelling to me, yet so denied and taboo to everyone else. My work has evolved to study these taboos and be open to their energies, to bring them to the light, honor them and develop skills to create a safe container for others who desire to express these "hidden" profane parts. Hidden of course means they come out sideways in other parts of one's life.

Many of the people I have worked/played with have also experienced these parts awakening in them at young ages. Particularly women who fantasize being raped, held captive, punished by an authority figure or savaged in some way. I sense the energies are linked at a DNA level to the reptilian and mammalian appendages of the human unconscious...and express in fantasy as pre-programmed archetypes of a broad spectrum and take on contemporary styles from the cultural imprint. This is the sexual bdsm side...which is different from the D/s side...which is about alpha/beta socio-spiritual dynamics - power/king/leadership vs surrender/devotion/submission.

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Liberating the parts that may have been hidden or repressed in everday life can be therapeutic and joyous. It can create healing, wholeness and acceptance of who we are in all ways, generating greater self-love.

Calling up these parts can also raise their counterparts. The ones that have been generally, if not extremely successful at holding our erotic truth in check. The counterparts may have to do with a variety of subconscious fears, guilt, shame, cultural or religious morality.

Both sides have distinct personas. They contain voice, point of view, emotion and intention. The repressed side may contain the stern father, shaming mother for example. The sometimes painful and foreboding inner messages we hear are powerful in the subconscious, and for most of us have been highly effective at holding back our truth. These parts seldom go away, just because you have finally crossed the threshold of your desire.

Part of the ritual process I practice is to help you engage these resistances, to learn about them. What is it exactly, they are afraid might happen. By bringing these parts into your conscious awareness, it helps to unhook them from the emotional and physical body. Without their emotional and physical power (fear or shame, clenched throat, knotted stomache etc), you are free to make conscious choice about the value of their judgments.

The foundation of ritual is trust. The process to get to trust is different for each person.